Don’t Ask Stupid Questions

I had so much fun venting out my thoughts last week with Kathy that I am back for more today, lucky you guys!

Summertime Fun
I confess I thought I would miss home the most during the wintertime with all of the holidays and that it would get easier during the summer. Now that the weather is beautiful back at home though (and still freezing here) I am finding myself missing home much more. So many fun events and get togethers during the summer back at home that I am going to miss out on. I need some sunshine to cheer me up. Get it together Iceland and warm up so I can sit outside in my floppy beach hat and bikini.

I confess I ride my bike to work in a skirt or dress several times a week and never wear pants to cover up. I am pretty sure several people have gotten more than a glimpse of my butt and I really should start wearing something over my tights. Maybe one day.

I confess that lately I am not interested in meeting new people, just because of the conversation that so often follows. I have met a lot of new people since moving to Iceland and almost all of our first conversations go a little something like this:

New Person: So why did you move to Iceland?
Me: Because I am a hopeless romantic and fell for a Viking.
NP: And your not pregnant?
Me: Ummm no…(thinking wtf that is a strange question)
NP: Oh wow you hardly meet girls who move here for their man that aren’t pregnant right away.
Me: Ya that won’t be happening for a long time.

I seriously have have had this conversation in some form or the other so many times since I have moved here. Another comment I often get, “so you don’t get along with your family.”

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Just because I moved abroad does not mean I don’t get along with my family. I actually miss my family everyday so don’t ask stupid questions.

I confess that I can’t stand when people don’t move out of the way for you when you are trying to get out of the elevator. Isn’t it common curtsey to stand out of the way while others get off before you push your way on? That seems to not be the case here and I have started just pushing my way through like everybody else.

I confess that the next person that tells me how lucky I am to have gotten my job I am going to freak out on.

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I get that I am really lucky for landing such an awesome job. But I also worked my ass off to get this job, it wasn’t something that was handed to me. I get so irritated when people talk to me like this was all luck. Hard work pays off people!

I confess that I am not a very affectionate person. This has been somewhat of an issue lately since a common way to greet your friends in Iceland is with kisses on the cheek. Well I am so not use to this and every time someone goes in for a cheek kiss I am so awkward and have no idea where to move my head to. It looks a lot like this.

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I confess I miss Azora more than some of my friends. On my way to work I see two golden retrivers who I have named “white Azora” and “old Azora”. The other day I saw white Azora outside and she had a white Azora puppy with her. I about died of cuteness. I miss cuddling with Azora!

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And it is totally not weird that I named these peoples dogs and give H daily updates on what they were doing when I saw them that day, totally normal.

I confess I can not stand repeating myself. If you don’t hear me the first time that is your problem.

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One of my biggest pet peeves and something that H does to me all the time.Listen the first time and I will stay in a good mood, simple as that.

I confess I have Icelandic class tomorrow morning and I am already stressing out about it. Everytime the teacher asks me a questions I have a panic attack and forget every word of Icelandic know. Give me a glass of wine though and I have no problem speaking in Icelandic.

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I should probably get back to studying instead of writing random nonsense on here.

Sjáumst!

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Question of the Day?
What is your pet peeve?

  • http://sophieinclogs.com Sophie

    Oh my goodness, I totally nodded along to a lot of this. People not moving out of the way can actually cause rage in my heat on an off-day.
    Also, the ‘you’re so lucky’ thing - I worked my butt off to finish a thesis in 3 months on a pratical topic that I chose specifically because I knew it would make me employable … Since then I have in fact had job opportunities directly related to that thesis. Meanwhile, some people take a year to write a thesis and don’t take it seriously at all (tuition for EU students is suuuuper cheap), and then they comment that I’m so lucky to have gotten this position! Please! You’re so lucky you can afford to take beach holidays every month while ‘finishing your thesis’ :p
    Ok, end of rant :p
    I’m sorry you’re missing home right now, I know how hard that is - big virtual hugs to you! And fingers crossed Iceland gets with the program and warms up soon!

    • http://unlockingkiki.com/ Kaelene Spence

      Thank you :) I know right, I can’t stand the “your so lucky” thing! Hard work pays off, go us!

  • http://hemborgwife.wordpress.com/ Bailie @ The Hemborg Wife

    I also kinda dread meeting new people! It is always so how is your Swedish, so what do you do all day, do you miss home and I want to say my Swedish is crap hence why I am talking in English, I do very exciting things all day so suck it, and no I am the ice queen so I do not miss home dummy and walk away but then that would be rude….

    • http://unlockingkiki.com/ Kaelene Spence

      I dread all those questions! I know they are just curious but it would be nice to meet someone new and not have to deal with those questions!

  • http://www.lifeinprogress.ca/ Kathy@Vodka and Soda

    im the same way with having to repeat myself… it drives me CRAZY and i get SO annoyed.

    i also stared at that dog gif way longer than i should have…it’s so cute LOL

    thanks for linking up!

    -kathy
    Vodka and Soda

    • http://unlockingkiki.com/ Kaelene Spence

      Ugh I can not stand repeating myself! Haha I love that dog gif:) Thanks for hosting!

  • http://voyageofthemeemee.com/ Amanda MeeMee

    Gahhhhh… I love Azora!!! :D
    Common sense/courtesy AREN’T common!

    • http://unlockingkiki.com/ Kaelene Spence

      Ahh Azora, I miss that cute face. No they really aren’t the same common that is for sure!

  • http://ifihad100dollars.wordpress.com Julieanne Malley

    YES to repeating yourself. I always ask Colin “Did you not hear me or were you not listening”

    • http://unlockingkiki.com/ Kaelene Spence

      Right! I just can’t stand it I have no patience’s for repeating myself.

  • Kristen Warren

    oh my gosh yes to all of this. i hate the meeting new people convo, though americans dont ask me if i am pregnant, but they do spout off tons of ‘im so funny’ lines to which i just stare my deathiest death stare.
    holidays are hard for me, because i hate the cold weather here, and christmas to me is summer with bbq and cricket outside.. obviously not the same in KY. but, i move on.
    I hate when people use the word lucky for things like that. we recently bought a house with a VA loan because hubby was in the military and people are like ‘you’re so lucky’ and it doesnt bother me, but it annoys the eff out of him. ‘no, i was in a horrible place and worked a horrible job for 6 years, i deserve this, i paid my dues, its hardly different to your home loan’ to which everyone is like, oh yes of course sorry. haha.

    • http://unlockingkiki.com/ Kaelene Spence

      I just think people should say congrats and not “you are so lucky”, it all takes hard work and we deserve it. I was in Australia once for Christmas and it was so strange to have warm weather so I could imagine how homesick the cold winter days make you!

  • http://www.andsoidid.com/ Madi | And So I Did

    Too funny! I’m the worst at not listening to Jake… He always seems to say something when I’ve just left the room or have the sink running or something else, and he gets so irritated. :/ Whoopsie! ;) I’m jealous that you can ride your bike to work. I live 30 miles from my job, so it’s a little out of the question for me. Haha!

    • http://unlockingkiki.com/ Kaelene Spence

      Yes that would be one long bike ride! It really is nice being able to ride my bike, at least when the weather is good it is nice.

  • http://movebyyourself.com Kelley @ Move By Yourself

    I do the same thing with dogs! There are two stray dogs in my neighborhood that I have named Penelope and Crazy Hair and I’m always telling my boyfriend what they did that day!

    • http://unlockingkiki.com/ Kaelene Spence

      Haha I am so glad I am not the only one. I told H about your dog names and said see it is totally normal!

  • Krystal R.

    That gif made me too happy hahah. Also I cannot stand repeating myself either, its so awkward to repeat the same thing 500 times.

    • http://unlockingkiki.com/ Kaelene Spence

      I love that gif, a perfect way to show how I feel about the cheek kisses. Ugh repeating myself is just something I do not have the patience’s for!

  • http://djseaward.tumblr.com/ Cynthia

    I love these. REAL TALK! I am totally with you on missing home in summer vs. winter! This is my second expat spring/summer season and I find May and June to be the most homesick months and then I get consumed with summer plans and travel that it eases off a little. I am right there with ya…. let’s get through this.
    And omg, the cheek kisses… I don’t know how to do it/care to partake either. I just sort of stand there. Hugs I can deal with (maybe).

    • http://unlockingkiki.com/ Kaelene Spence

      Thanks Cynthia! I wasn’t expecting to feel homesick when the weather warmed up but I am sure once all my summer plans start I will feel much better:)

  • http://www.foodboozeandbaggage.com/ Food Booze & Baggage

    The elevator thing would drive me nuts…you have to wait for me to get off before you can get on…you are slowing the process down. I would be exactly the same with the kissing, just thinking about it embarrasses me. I don’t even like people (unless I know them well) to hug me.

    • http://unlockingkiki.com/ Kaelene Spence

      I am the same way. Unless you know me really well don’t touch me! So it is taking me some getting used to with the whole cheek kiss thing!

  • Steph Gregerson

    The elevator thing - I totally agree, but add the Subway. If you don’t get out of my way, you can’t get into the Subway car… UGH. Good luck with your class. My husband told me the other day that we should try and learn some Icelandic before visiting - I told him I’d check with you to see if we could survive with just English.

    • http://unlockingkiki.com/ Kaelene Spence

      No you guys will be totally fine with just English. Everyone can speak English really well, they start learning at the age of 6 in school. Also most menu’s and some signs have English descriptions.

  • http://anothercleanslate.com/ Kate @ Another Clean Slate

    Not only do I hate when people don’t get out of the way in the elevator, I also hate when the door is closing and someone jumps in to sensor it to open again so they can get on. JUST WAIT.

    • http://unlockingkiki.com/ Kaelene Spence

      Yes or when they yell at you to hold the elevator, its like just wait there will be another one!

  • http://brittneybreakingfree.blogspot.com Brittney

    I name my neighbors dogs all the time…Idk what their real names are but they come when I call them the names I gave them HA!

    • http://unlockingkiki.com/ Kaelene Spence

      Haha that is awesome, they must like the names you give them.

  • http://chiclittlethrills.blogspot.com/ Lisa

    Aww your dog is so cute! And hard work does pay off for sure. XO

    Lisa,xo

    • http://unlockingkiki.com/ Kaelene Spence

      Thank you I think she is pretty cute too. Hard work really does pay off!

  • http://luyoutravel.blogspot.com/ Elizabeth Georgian

    Kaelene you are too funny! Also, how rude that people ask if you are pregnant or if you don’t get along with your family. I would be avoiding people to if that is how conversations went. Good luck with your Icelandic class tomorrow. I’m sure you will do great! Just breathe (and maybe put some alcohol in your coffee?)

    • http://unlockingkiki.com/ Kaelene Spence

      Ha thank you! People can really ask some shocking questions sometimes. I am liking the idea of some alcohol in my coffee:)

  • http://www.rhymeandribbons.com/ Amanda @ Rhyme & Ribbons

    I came from a very un-kissy family and was so awkward at first that most people in England greet each other with kisses. Now it’s pretty normal to me and I don’t act super socially inept about it. I can’t believe people asked if you moved because you were pregnant! That is craziness to me! x

    • http://unlockingkiki.com/ Kaelene Spence

      My family is quite affectionate but that was about as far as my affection tolerance went. Unless your a close relative I am not interested in hugging and kisses. I am getting more used to it now though but at first I was so awkward!

  • http://emzrant.blogspot.com/ Em

    Ha!! One of my biggest pet peeves is when people make crazy assumptions like that! And you better post some more Icelandic sayings in future posts! I am most definitely looking forward to that! :D

    • http://unlockingkiki.com/ Kaelene Spence

      Ugh those assumptions are so annoying! Yes I will need to have to through some more Icelandic sayings out there!

  • http://agirlandhertravels.com/ Polly

    I’m impressed by your ability to ride a bike in a dress and not be flashing people 100% of the time. You should put that on your resume!

    • http://unlockingkiki.com/ Kaelene Spence

      Ha thank you I think it is a pretty impressive talent as well! But as most women in Iceland ride around on their bikes in dresses I guess they won’t think I am that awesome.

  • http://hannahonthemap.com Hannah Wasielewski

    I hate when people think I’m not close to my family because I decided to move away for a year. distance does NOT mean we’re not close. my family and I are extremely close, just sometimes you have to take advantage of opportunities that are far away!

    • http://unlockingkiki.com/ Kaelene Spence

      It is so irritating to me when people assuming I am not close to my family because I live away from them. Your point is so true, we sometimes have to take advantages of opportunities even if they are far away!

  • http://totravelandbeyond.wordpress.com/ Macy Gutermuth

    I can’t believe people say that to you. Really?! You can’t love somebody enough unless you’re pregnant?! nooo thanksss!

    • http://unlockingkiki.com/ Kaelene Spence

      Ya the pregnant one always blows me away! Or I get asked if H is paying for everything since I moved here and all. Umm no I am independent I don’t need a man to take care of me thanks. Some people really ask crazy questions!

  • Kels Sheron

    I don’t find it that outrageous to move to a foreign country for your man. I feel like they don’t have manners if strangers ask if your preggers jeez…

    • http://unlockingkiki.com/ Kaelene Spence

      I agree, I think it is quite rude when they ask that!

  • Kim

    youll get used to the kissing thing; people do that in NYC too and it was so weird for me the whole time (6 years) i lived there, but now that im back in florida im even MORE awkward bc i feel like i should be cheek kissing, but then dont bc ppl in fl dont do that!

    • http://unlockingkiki.com/ Kaelene Spence

      I am starting to get more used to it now but I can not imagine doing it when I go back home, people don’t do that in Oregon either!

  • http://thethingsiamcrazyfor.wordpress.com/ Camila

    these are all very legit reasons to have enough!
    and how rude was that pregnant question…just wow

    • http://unlockingkiki.com/ Kaelene Spence

      I am glad you agree!

  • http://shannonthemrs.blogspot.de/ Shannon

    People can be so rude sometimes! When I got married and moved to Germany, everyone was shocked that being pregnant wasn’t the reason behind marriage and the move. More than one person said “I can’t understand why you’d do such a thing unless you were going to have a baby.” What is going on in your brain that seems like a good thing to say to someone??

    • http://unlockingkiki.com/ Kaelene Spence

      Seriously! That is so rude, babies don’t need to determine everything! I just don’t get why people ask those questions.

  • http://www.notentirelyperfect.com/ Stephanie

    That’s really a thing? People get pregnant right away? Strange. And also strange that they would ask you! Ugh I can’t do the kiss thing. I’m like nope, germs. Fist bump or nothing.

    • http://unlockingkiki.com/ Kaelene Spence

      Apparently it is a thing, they use to say to me you will be pregnant by your 6th month here. Well onto month 7 and no bun in this oven! And yes fist bump all the way!

  • http://www.tothedayslikethis.com/ Sammy Dorn

    Wine always makes everything better. People are stupid when they ask stupid questions. Hang in there xx

    • http://unlockingkiki.com/ Kaelene Spence

      Wine really does make everything better. Thanks Sammy :)

  • Corinne Vail

    Yep…I learned long ago, language lessons + alcohol = better speaking me!

    • http://unlockingkiki.com/ Kaelene Spence

      Haha I think it is a key part of language studies :)

  • http://www.chicadeedee.com/ Dannielle @ Chicadeedee

    People always assume you are fleeing something when you move, it’s the strangest thing. Also, I used to speak Spanish when I was drunk, alcohol fuels the foreign languages apparently haha.

    • http://unlockingkiki.com/ Kaelene Spence

      It is so annoying when that is the first thing people assume. Ha yes alcohol really does fuel foreign languages.

  • http://southernbelle23.blogspot.com/ Whitney @ EHFAR

    I hate repeating myself!!!

    • http://unlockingkiki.com/ Kaelene Spence

      Ugh it drives me nuts having to repeat myself!